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Can A Recruiter BLACKLIST A Candidate?

Y’all.

I’ve seen some recruiters say some pretty crazy stuff in the last couple of decades, but the idea that we (they) can actually BLACKLIST someone is… well. a bit out there for me.

Let me explain – but first let’s unpack the definition of “blacklist”

Alrighty! So CAN recruiters “blacklist”? Not necessarily… but what could happen:

Recruiters can record specific, actual conversations or communications that happen between recruiter/hm and candidate. So – if you cuss out a recruiter it’s quite likely that will be documented in the ATS and recorded for future recruiters to read.

Of course recruiters ALSO have the authority to decide who they want to work with and submit to hiring managers. It would be VERY UNETHICAL to not submit a candidate solely because you don’t like them. It would be REASONABLE to not submit a candidate because of repeated or highly problematic behaviors.

I don’t say any of this to freak people out. MOST recruiters are fair, realistic, and understand the difference between data points (had a bad day) and trends (consistently inappropriate or poor behavior).

Finally, if a recruiter is recording personal biases or making decisions based on anything OTHER than fit for the role / verifiable data points, it can reflect very badly on THEM.

Bottom line – NO – recruiters typically do not have the authority or influence to “blacklist” anyone for any reason – but they can definitely track factual data and let the actual hiring authority (typically hiring managers) decide for themselves.

The Golden Rule – treat others how you want to be treated – is always a best practice no matter what side of hiring you’re on.

What to Wear to an Interview

Image result for dress for the job you wantThere sure are a lot of experts out there telling us what we shouldn’t wear to interviews and/or the workplace. One author proposes a no bling rule (check out my response here). Someone else says no yoga pants (thanks for inspiring this blog!). And now we have NO ORANGE CLOTHING.

Yes, I understand that not all companies are the same. While I, in tech, can get away with pink hair and Star Wars t-shirts, I know that this would not fly in a bank in my Midwestern home town. I encourage you to employ some common sense and ask your recruiter / friends / colleagues who are in the know. Besides that, there is one simple rule that everyone – regardless of the position – should follow.

Wear what makes you feel great.

That’s it! That’s the rule. Here’s why. An interview is your one big chance at making an epic impression. You’ve probably already made a positive one – after all, they’re inviting you to meet a bunch of folks and are SERIOUSLY considering you for their open positions. That is a great sign! It means they like you enough to invest hours of employees’ time to get to know you better.

What they are probably NOT doing, is judging you over the color of your sweater.

Hey if orange is your color, ROCK IT. I would look like a washed out pumpkin, but you’ll pry my leopard print scarf out of my cold dead hands. There are certain outfits and accessories that just make me feel like I have my shit together. And when I feel like I have my shit together, I come across as WAY MORE CONFIDENT.

Who doesn’t want to wear confidence to an interview?

Here’s a fun fact about me. Red lipstick is my super power. I have no scientific proof to back this up. I cannot tell you that I’ve received amazing offers because I wore red lipstick. I can neither confirm nor deny that my most popular speaking engagements, webinars and trainings were the ones where I was rocking the red. I can tell you, without hesitation or reservation, that I feel better/smarter/more confident when I have my lippy war paint on.

It’s going to be too much for some people. A company, hiring manager, or recruiter who looks at this shameless selfie and says “oh no she’d NEVER fit HERE” – well, they’re right. And I wouldn’t want to.

I am SO fortunate to be at a place in my career (at least right now 😉 ) where I can carefully pick and choose who I want to work with and where. I know not everyone is this lucky. So recruiters, here’s some unsolicited advice for YOU.

Don’t allow your hiring partners to pull this shady stuff. Just don’t. If you’re unsure how to push back on bad feedback, call me. I’ll walk you through it and give you some ideas on how to re-center the discussion on what matters.

Candidates – send me your super power selfies! Show me what you’re rocking for those important interviews. I’ll draw a name at random and send you a little something to thank you for being a faithful reader and supporter of my little blog. You can always find me at amy@recruitinginyogapants.com, put “SUPER POWER SELFIE” in the subject line so I don’t miss it.

Now go conquer that interview!

Interview Prep Advice For Candidates Who Don’t Want It

I’ve been in the people business for 20 years. That’s a REALLY LONG TIME to do one thing. I’ve done it a lot of different places, but they all have something in common – interviews are hard.

I don’t care how long you’ve been working in your chosen profession. I don’t care what your degrees are in. I don’t care if you are the world’s foremost expert in basket weaving – someone, who has the authority to recommend you for a job, is coming to judge your basket.

Don’t you want to know what they’re hoping to see?

Candidates who dismiss interview preparation or recruiter advice from the start are doing themselves a tremendous disservice. Don’t believe me? Let’s meet Cliff (not his real name, but he looks like the guy from Cheers. Uncanny, actually – since he also KNOWS EVERYTHING).

Many moons ago I was a starving agency recruiter searching for a CFO for a solar start up. Our client specifically wanted someone from a utility background, and was willing to train up on the intricacies of solar AND start up world. The role was a tremendous opportunity for someone to come in to the C-suite with a fast track to CEO, as our client was a serial founder and wanted to turn over the reins to his new hire. After much searching, I found Cliff – his background had been primarily in public utilities in the right geographic area – he knew the players and was itching to get into something “new”. Win Win!

I talked to the client about Cliff’s background and concerns around not having previous start up experience, and the client explained why that didn’t matter. What he REALLY wanted to see was energy and confidence that the person could learn. As long as Cliff could deliver THAT, he was IN! His background could not have aligned any better.

I’m STOKED, and can’t wait to give Cliff the good news plus share some interview prep. We had some standard prep we sent everyone, but we also targeted certain things we learned / knew about the organizations we were retained with, to help our candidates put their best foot forward. I schedule the call with Cliff, letting him know what we were going to cover. When I called him, I barely get a sentence out when he says –

“No offense, Amy – but I’ve been interviewing since you were in diapers. I don’t need any help.”

Now my dumb ass, being a young recruiter kinda new to this exec search stuff, backed down. Big mistake. HUGE. I left Cliff to his own devices, where he promptly went into the interview and shit the bed. When debriefing with the client, he was sad. Cliff had a great background, exactly what he was looking for, but repeated several times “but I haven’t worked in solar/start up before”. Over. And over. Maybe it was nerves, maybe he thought the client didn’t already know that. What I know FOR SURE, was that I could have TOLD Cliff we’d talked about that, vetted it, and how to discuss (be confident in what you DO know and focus on how you’ll ramp up!). But unfortunately, Cliff already knew everything and cost me a massive fee.

Sigh. I had to call Cliff, and let him know. Guess what Cliff said. NO REALLY GUESS.

“Gee Amy, I wish you had told me that.”

YOU DON’T SAY!

Well Cliff, I tell you what. You’ve RUINED everyone else’s chances of escaping my prep calls! EVERYONE GETS A PREP CALL!

I have never forgotten Cliff. These days, if a candidate tries to squirm out of my excessive prep, I tell them Cliff’s story. I tell them MY story – I’m a professional recruiter who interviews people ALL THE TIME, but being on the “other side” of the desk is different! And scary! And hard! Y’all know I’m a recruiter who does this every single day – when it was my turn to be the interviewee – I realized just how little I knew about my now employer’s expectations and how they were going to “grade” me. I’m so grateful I listened to my recruiter and soaked up the many prep documents she sent me ahead of time. I also work exclusively with managers, so I get to remind them how THEY are vetting candidates. When you’re interviewing someone for your team, don’t you want them to have taken advantage of EVERY opportunity to be ready? The answer is a resounding YES.

So for candidates who still think I’m full of shit, here’s what I want you to consider before your next interview:

  • You’re probably interviewing once every few years at best. You are not a “professional” interviewer. You’re a professional something else and probably amazing at it. Please – let us help you with this part.
  • Interviewing is a TEST. I tell my engineering leaders all the time – “you’re probably REALLY GOOD at math. You do math every day. Math is your thing, you can do math in your sleep. Now you have to prove it. Remember the SATs? Did you study for those? SAME CONCEPT.”
  • With some exceptions, your recruiter wants this as badly (if not more so) than you do. We are literally in the business of delivering offers. We can’t do that if you don’t pass the interview. Trust us, we don’t want to mess this up. We have NOTHING to gain by giving you bad advice or steering you wrong.
  • You CAN ignore us. Maybe the prep doesn’t make sense, or you have an inside track (friends at the company, whatever) that completely runs contrary to what your recruiter is telling you. That’s OK! You can’t ignore what you don’t have in hand. Give us a chance. Take what works. Unless the recruiter is a total idiot, they probably have at least one or two helpful nuggets. It’s worth your time to take the call.
I am EXCEPTIONALLY lucky that I work with some of the smartest people on the planet. My company has a very high bar, and we offer lots of advice on how to navigate our challenging hiring process. I love when my candidates not only embrace my help, but ask lots of really great questions and take the time (weeks!) to really study up and make sure they’re putting their absolute best self in front of the interviewers. If you’re going to take the time to meet with interviewers, do yourself a favor and take any and all opportunity to knock it out of the park!

How to tell if a recruiter is full of shit (and what to do about it).

A recruiter called with a job just PERFECT FOR YOU! Great news, right….? I mean, recruiters are AWESOME! Recruiters connect people with jobs! Recruiters are the happy go lucky bridges between workers and managers making dreams come true! Recruiters are….

Oh.

Here’s the real deal y’all – recruiting is a game of rejection, unfortunately. As much as we’d like to pretend otherwise, we have to tell a lot of people NO. Whether it’s narrowing down our short list with hiring managers, or following up after interviews, there are all sorts of opportunities for us to anger people. Sure, there’s lots of advice on the best way to have that conversation, but this is not that blog post. This is for the passive target just minding her own business AND the active applicant who both desperately want to know – just what the hell is wrong with this recruiter and WHY should I trust them with my career?

First Contact
So you get a call from a recruiter. Or an email, tweet, inmail (shudder) or some version of outreach. This recruiter has NEVER SPOKEN TO YOU BEFORE. Should you respond? If yes, how?

Not every message deserves a response. There I said it. While it is KIND to reply to everyone, you and I both know it’s not REALISTIC. If I responded to every single form of outreach I ever received, I’d get hardly any real work done. So no – you don’t HAVE to respond, but you might want to. Questions to ask yourself –

  • Does this recruiter work for / represent a company I’m interested in learning about?
  • Does the job (assuming they’ve given you some context) sound intriguing?
  • Am I at a point in my career where I MIGHT be willing to make a change for something AMAZING?
  • Did the recruiter write a relevant, targeted message that clearly indicates they have a clue and did their homework on ME?
If the answer is YES to any of these, a response is warranted. Even if it’s a “no thanks not now” response, that’s ok! I know I would appreciate it.
The Call
So you respond. Recruiter wants to talk, promises to share comp info, company detail, more about the role once they get you on the phone. THIS IS A TACTIC. Of course it is, we’re trained to plant the seed to get you on the phone. This is not wrong, necessarily… but it can feel a little gross so it’s totally fine to be blunt here. It’s ABSOLUTELY acceptable to tell the recruiter you can spare 15 minutes, are willing to provide a brief overview of your background and lay out your expectations. A good recruiter would be all over that. A GREAT recruiter will do more listening than talking in this first conversation. What we want to know –
  • Are you open to making a job change?
  • Are you skills and abilities a fit for my hiring need(s)?
  • Do you have reasonable expectations?
Now you’re wondering what’s reasonable… great question, and a recruiter should be able to tell you. Whether it’s average comp for your industry / expertise, appropriate level / chance of getting to the next step in the hiring process, timing… all of this can and should be readily answered by the recruiter. It’s worth mentioning that in the course of this quick chat, one of both of you may decide it’s not the right time/opportunity. THAT IS OK. You can agree to follow up in 6 months. The recruiter can offer to connect you to other teams / colleagues. You can agree to never speak again. There are no wrong outcomes, but CLEAR outcomes with specific next steps are the best.
Pro Tip – if you’re not comfortable getting on the phone, lay that out in your email response! I have literally done this as a prospect myself. I am interested in chatting IF (insert laundry list here). A smart recruiter knows better than to waste your time and will be thankful. If we can hit those hot buttons, AWESOME! We’ll tell you that and set up a call from there. If we can’t… well, in my experience recruiters just go away never to be heard from again. It happens. 😉
Red Flags
Full disclosure – this is MY perspective as a candidate / prospect who gets hit up all the time. I try really really hard to NEVER be this recruiter. I fail at this. A lot. But know it’s not who I want to be.

  • Can’t or won’t disclose any details about the company / job / team. We’re not holding the nuclear codes here, people. If the recruiter doesn’t KNOW, then the recruiter is not truly a strategic adviser to their client and knowledgeable about what they’re recruiting for. Proceed with caution.
  • Talks WAY TOO MUCH. Well shit. I’m guilty of this. I get excited, probably over share, so… the previous bullet isn’t really a problem 🙂 BUT – recruiters should be making it about YOU the candidate and taking lots of notes. If you have to remind your recruiter repeatedly that no you absolutely CAN NOT RELOCATE then it’s a good indicator they’re not listening. And that’s bad.
  • Pretends to know more than they do. I don’t know shit about coding. I often joke about being the least technical tech recruiter on the planet. I won’t ask you a bunch of questions about latency or distributed systems or the difference between Java and JavaScript because frankly I’m not keen on embarrassing myself (much). I’ll ask you for a high level overview and understand enough to know what you want to do and where you could potentially do it (in my company). Equally important – I will be the absolute EXPERT on RECRUITING, what it takes to get from point A to offer, and how to help YOU navigate the tricky tricky process that is interviewing and negotiating. That’s MY super power. What’s yours?

I rant on the internet and call it blogging.

I’m a smack talker.

There, I said it. I run my mouth like it powers the electrical grid. Some people find this annoying. A few find it amusing. At least 4 people I am not related to have thanked me for my bullshit over the years. You are SO WELCOME.

So here we are. Many of you know I’ve been a regular contributor to various sites including my dear friends at Recruiting Daily I still love those guys, and will continue posting as often as they let me. So why this blog? Why now?

BECAUSE I CAN.

That’s really it. For years I’ve resisted starting my own site – it was easier to lean on editors to make my stuff pretty, check my grammar, and yeah, offer a built-in following. People were probably reading my stuff because it was somewhere they were already going for content.

So…. if this little old site gets any love/traffic/traction at all, it will be because you like me, you really like me!

Or not. Who knows.

What I DO know? I love recruiting. I love yoga pants. And we’re going to talk about all of this and more.

Your fearless author getting ready to tackle another workday at the Goog.